How attached are you to your belief?

In our everyday lives, we often want to be certain about what we believe. Being right makes you feel so good. But, let's talk about why it might be better to be open to different ideas. Picture this as a journey where being open-minded can actually make things better.

In this blogpost  we'll look at why it's okay to not always be right,  Additionally, we'll break down the process into four stages of emotional attachment, guiding you through becoming aware and changing your beliefs.

The Journey Begins: Emotional Attachment Stages

1. Concept Stage: At the beginning, beliefs are like simple concepts. They have little emotional attachment. You can easily accept new information that makes sense and comes from a credible source.

2. Belief Stage: As beliefs develop, they gain some emotional attachment, positive or negative. You may easily accept information that agrees with your belief but become skeptical when faced with conflicting information.

3. Strong Belief Stage: With stronger beliefs, emotional attachment deepens. Positive information reinforces your belief, making it harder to change. Conversely, conflicting information triggers a negative emotional reaction, making change more challenging.

4. Core Belief Stage: Core beliefs are like cornerstones of your understanding. At this stage, emotional attachment is intense, and conflicting information is highly resisted. Emotional reasoning often takes over, hindering logical consideration.

How does this impact our project results?

First of all it would be grate if we could  belief  strongly in the possibility of making our project a raelity and crossing the finish line. This includes the belief of that there is enough money to finance it, there are clients who will pay for the extra costs of project management, of supervising the process, of paying for the service of installation, implementation and maintenance, education. etc.

Second it would be very helpful to install this strong belief in the possibility of bringing this project successfully cross the finish line in time in our team members, stakeholders, clients.

Third we need to be aware of this concept in our negotiations so that we can detect how deep is someones conviction if he is against our project.  The point is that logical arguments will not be enough to make him change his belief as he/ she sees the world form a different angle.

This is why we as leaders need to learn to embrace all 4 dimensions of communication and logic is just one of it.  I my experience most of the people have a strong: Why do we need to change it?" a guiding principle.  Why change it if it is not broken yet? 

But what if we are not happy  with our results? Are you looking outside for the guilty guy? Are you blaming the economy?  Do we need to change our own beliefs to be more successful?

This is definitely necessary if we transition from  being the expert and stepping into leading a team, hiring suppliers, dealing with larger stakeholder groups. all that means that we step into a leadership role and we need to question  some of our beliefs.

In our bootcamp the Confident Project Leader we  support Leaders and entrepreneurs  who want to elevate their level consciousness about what does it take to be a empowered leader. Inside this program you get  a personalized  feedback and experience in a safe space  how to solve conflicts and problems in projects. 

In my 20 years of training executives and project leaders I got asked very often : And you really believe aI can do that? I can become a successful CEO? I can lead that big team and have fun? You really believe we can get this project  financed? - YESS, was always my answer. Sometimes it takes a coach to believe in you before you believe in yourself string enough.

So how can we change limiting beliefs?

Navigating the Process of Changing your Belief 

Her is a  Four-Step Process to change beliefs

1. Awareness:

Recognize where your beliefs fall on the emotional attachment spectrum. Are they at the concept, belief, strong belief, or core belief stage? Acknowledging this sets the stage for change.

2. Challenge the Assumptions:

Actively question your beliefs. Are they based on facts or assumptions? Challenge beliefs that no longer serve your goals and be open to alternative perspectives.

When it comes to strong attachments  our beliefs can blind us. They stop us from seeing what is right in front of our eyes because we don't want to lose the emotional benefit the belief provides

3. Seek New Perspectives:

Expand your knowledge by seeking information that challenges or complements your existing beliefs. Exposure to diverse viewpoints helps create a more well-rounded understanding.

4. Embrace Continuous Learning:

Adopt a mindset of continuous learning. Stay curious, attend workshops, and stay informed about industry trends. A willingness to adapt ensures your beliefs evolve with the changing landscape.

Conclusion

Navigating beliefs is a journey with stages of emotional attachment. By becoming aware and following a simple four-step process, we can embrace change, fostering personal and professional growth. Remember, it's okay not to always be right – the journey is about learning, growing, and adapting to the ever-changing world around us.

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